What would it look like to be content in our waiting and with our sexuality, as both singles and marrieds, not because we’re perfect at waiting for sex or we’re perfectly sexual but because we’re content in our humanity, in our femininity and masculinity, in our longing for union with the trinity?
“If God was looking down on you, would it look any different to Him?”
I was in college and struggling with setting physical boundaries with my current boyfriend. I knew that God intended sex for within the confines of marriage and believed there were consequences if I disobeyed, but I wasn’t sure where the line was. How far is too far? I knew I felt shame and guilt for some of the behavior I had engaged in, but was it really wrong or was I over re-acting?
I shared these thoughts with my friend and mentor, Jenn.
College can be a confusing time—figuring out what we are, what we want to do, and most importantly, who we want to marry.
Okay, maybe not most importantly.
I’ve previously written a post about marrying “The One” and whether or not only one actually existed.
I created this video post for those wondering how to tell whether your current “one” is actually The One. I’m sure you get that question all the time from your students.
The primary reason that college students leave their faith in college is their personal desire for sexual freedom and its incompatibility with religious morality.
Approximately 65% of all college students have had sex.
25% of college women’s first encounter with sex was unwanted or forced.
Less than 30% of college students have had a healthy conversation with their parents about the “birds and the bees”
GK Chesterton says, “The guy knocking on the brothel door is knocking for God”
I’m not sure I’m in the best position to make a contribution to this blogathon, given its topic, Sex and the Soul. I have grown long in the tooth and I find myself sounding like my parents.
But, I must be honest: I think the topic looms huge, the veritable 500-pound gorilla always there in the corner of the room.
Maybe a story from my own college experience will help to frame my concern.
I’m excited to announce that as a part of next week’s Sex & the Soul Blogathon, we will be giving away 5 copies of Abbie Smith’s forthcoming book Celibate Sex: Musings on Being Loved, Single, Twisted, and Holy.
Make sure to read all the way to the bottom to learn the context rules!
With 7 out of every 10 students claiming to have been in a long-distance relationship at some point, they are probably something we should know more about.
Long-distance relationships are not new, but advances in technology have made staying connected to high school sweethearts — or significant others from a previous school — a lot easier.
Yet, what do we really know about long-distance relationships???
And how do we assist students when we typically only get to see one side of the relationship.
Preparation for the next blogathon is now underway!
As you very well know, today’s college students are more wounded than ever. They’ve been exposed to, or personally experienced, a lot of pain and hurt in relation to sex, issues of sexuality, and their intersection with the Christian faith.
And what they need most are women and men who are willing to “get dirty” with them in order to understand the depths of their hurts.
They need someone like you and like me to come alongside them — suspending judgment — and journey with them towards healing, reconciliation, and redemption.
The 3rd Annual Sex & the Soul Blogathon…
Parents play a powerful role in the development of their children.
Seems obvious to say, yet I think we can tend to forget this truth when we work with students on college campuses — primarily because we don’t see parents, just students.
Sure, from time to time our students might bring their parents up in conversation. But it can be all to easy to forget that the ways in which our students think, believe, and live are without doubt a product of the ways and environments in which they were raised.
It’s true for all of our students — those who are thriving and those who are not.
A cure for the stressed life of a college student — REALLY!?!?!
I think we’d be the most popular office on campus if we professed to posses such a golden ticket — because we can all testify to the fact that we hear our students complain about this far more than we hear them complain about anything (or even everything) else.
Our students struggling — and they need our help.
I recently ran across this INFOGRAPHIC depicting the many things that today’s college students are stressing about… and a rather surprising set of cures for the student who feels too busy, broke, lonely, and/or stressed to keep it all together.